for few days, i was in hibernation, thinking things over & introspecting alot. good thing , now i'm calm, composed & ready to take charge.
for quite sometime, i've been pondering over the kind of world we r living in & legacy that we r building to leave behind for our children, not surprisingly, the more i'm thinking, the more...... i'm frustrated.
i was tuned in to "news " yesterday & my son popped a question..mom , whats democracy???????
This simple question baffled me coz though i knew the constitutional meaning of the word, i didn't have right kind of examples to quote.......
what do i tell him, i'm still searching for the examples...... help me please.
a)I am hooked to this channel "lok sabha", i love its talk-shows & other current issues programmes....blame it on my love for everything old, this program "baaton baaton mein" is hosted by mrinal pandey, editor, hindustan, she was interviewing nandita das....must see guys. it cointributes alot to ur thinking train, i'd like to mention an excerpt where the two ladies were talking bout marriages & sanctity of this institution & is it importatnt for legislature to intervene in this particular matter. nandita quoted from her life that when she seperated from her husband............ladies wud come & question her that" why did u guys seperate , wo to aapko bahut kaam kerna allow kerte the?" she answered "wo issue nahin tha ji, main bhi unko utna hi allow kerti hoon".............i loved her precise & to the point yet don't cross ur line/ how naive can u be in a all goody-goody way answer. at the same time, it had me thinking, isn't it true for 80% ladies of our society, they need permission from there spouses to work/ they work to support their spouses & yet our second class citizens in society. is this democracy/ progression of society...........even if a handful of us "the thinking breed " has been successful in bringing about circumstantial change in our society, I think we still need to change our outlook big time...................u agree or not?
b) jaswant singh gets expelled from BJP..........his crime/sin- writing a book on the inside-outs of political scenario during independence & indo-pak.......division. DEMOCRACY, freedom of expression............... gone for good . S hould the same rule have applied to advani for advocating jinnah as a non-secular leader.........but advani was required in the party as a priminsterial candidate. ur take on this?
c) shahrukh khan's frisking at newark airport is a news, nationally & internationally, DR. kalam's frisking is just a quote for comparison between both the cases........what comparison........ who is shahrukh khan in comparison to the ex-head of india, world's largest democracy...... cant we see throgh the attention seeking , publicity stunt or we take anything in the name of news served to us along with bed tea. How thinking, we actually are????????
From my experience of having interacted with lot of women, women from every strata & different walks of life, i remember a few incidences which haunts me day in & day out, the synopsis is accounted below..........
Women who work, don't know they r being paid in full or not ( not talking bout a small % in corporates jobs only), their husbands file their taxes & calculate returns, from there own hard earned money.......they r given pocket money& that too they r accountable for expenditures to their spouses, they try to hide their incentives from their husbands & ask it to be paid in cash so that it does not show on record.................i've stories & stories to share.
all I can say is ...............
Be the change u want to see. dont just be a sitting duck.
starting point can be the women u interact with......................see it as a mission, make them think, make them realize their worth, it cud be any1, ur MIL/SIL/SIS/MOM/AUNT/NEIGHBOUR/COLLEAGUE. be clear about ur thoughts, voice ur opinion & let them listen, kabhi to 1-2% retain karenge ye log. we r 477 women who claim to be different & thinking, if each one of us can bring about change in 5 women around us, in a slow/sluggish process, can we not contribute constructively. koi aisi "cliche" words kehta hai ki hum kya ker sakte hain/ yahi niyam hai/ hum aurat hain/ humare haath mein kuch bhi nahin hai to uski counselling kero, kerte raho jab tak ya to wo na thak jaaye ya uske andar change dikhna na shuru ho jaaye. nahin ker sakte hain kya hum log ye......................?????????????
if not, then my dears, we need to change our outlook first